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& The Two Become Won

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“First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage”. Sounds simple enough, right. But they forget to mention all the things in between love, marriage, and baby carriages. Things like in-laws, infertility, instability, infidelity, and so on. Navigating through married life’s twists and turns is doable and enjoyable, but you must have a game plan; a strategy to navigate through the seasons of life.  One thing that is sure, and two things that is certain are transitions (death,birth, new, old)  and taxes!    Michelle and I believe that there’s a void of transparency (realness) in addressing the revolving issues that plague our marriages, families, relationships, finances, etc.  Our intent with this blog is to share, care, and inform. May this year be filled with love and happiness and may it be  one for the books!

-Kevin  &  Michelle Bradley

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Mother’s Day poem for Michelle (my wife ☺️) titled So Amazingly Wonderful by Kevin D. Bradley

So Amazingly Wonderful!

Mother’s Day Poem to my wife Michelle.

So Amazingly Wonderful are the words that circulates in my mind.

I’m reminded of the sacrifices behind your smile.

Being misunderstood at times you pushed, prayed, and persevered.

We love you for your commitment to all things pure.

I enjoy the perspective that only intimacy affords.

I see your heart, we feel your love and know this that is most important.

God sees and He knows you tears and your sacrifices will not Go unrewarded.

Oh yeah, roses are red and violets are blue……. blah blah blah

We LOVE YOU!

Happy Mother’s Day‼️

Breaking Bad Habits (continuing the conversation)

THE TWO BECOME WON

I’m sure, unless you have being living under a rock, everyone has heard of the iconic TV show “Breaking Bad”.

If you have not, here is a link to a synopsis of the show;  https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0903747/plotsummary#summary-ps0646694.  After viewing this a few things stood out for me:

1. The deeper the main character progresses into his drug operation the more his facade  was exposed.  Meaning that there were great extents taken to cover, mask, disguise, and keep hidden their involvement with making, selling and using drugs which in this case methamphetamines better known as crystal meth.

2. The other thing that stood out to me was not only did “Mr. White’s” secrecy destroy his marriage , severe his relationship with his son and others, but what was really interesting is he really believed that by him taking a vow of secrecy  he was “protecting” his loved ones. However, in actuality he…

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Breaking Bad Habits (continuing the conversation)

I’m sure, unless you have being living under a rock, everyone has heard of the iconic TV show “Breaking Bad”.

If you have not, here is a link to a synopsis of the show;  https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0903747/plotsummary#summary-ps0646694.  After viewing this a few things stood out for me:

1. The deeper the main character progresses into his drug operation the more his facade  was exposed.  Meaning that there were great extents taken to cover, mask, disguise, and keep hidden their involvement with making, selling and using drugs which in this case methamphetamines better known as crystal meth.

2. The other thing that stood out to me was not only did “Mr. White’s” secrecy destroy his marriage , severe his relationship with his son and others, but what was really interesting is he really believed that by him taking a vow of secrecy  he was “protecting” his loved ones. However, in actuality he ended up hurting them the most by creating a foundation of mistrust that could no longer support the weight of his lies.  Isn’t that just like secrecy.  It pretends to protect but in actuality it prolongs the inevitable of unraveling family fabrics stitched together by lies and loose ends.

So how do we break bad habits. First, acknowledging there are bad habits. You don’t have to wait for your family to fall apart or relationships to ruin in order to realize it. Just be honest, first with yourself then with others. Here are six keys that we believe will help you unlock breaking bad habits:

Confrontation. You can’t adjust what you won’t address. The word confrontation gets a bad rep. The word is usually associated with drama, arguing, and or fighting, but it doesn’t have to mean that. By definition it means to face and deal with.

Conversation. There is a song that coined the term “conversation rules the nation” which means conversation has the capacity to cultivate so many great things if we take the time and courage to have them. In the Bible in Genesis chapter 3 one conversation changed the fate of humanity. Imagine what one conversation could do in your life.

Cooperation. In the Bible in Amos chapter 3 its says “how can two walk together unless they agree?”. So if you want to get somewhere and you want to get there together, cooperate don’t frustrate. J

 

Conversion. A person that has been persuaded is what conversion means. We all have been persuaded to do a lot of things when we could see the benefit. Be willing to see yourself and your actions through the eyes of those who love you. And be persuaded to change for the benefit of all.

Correction. Maya Angelou said “When you know better you do better” which in and of itself is not true. There are things we know that aren’t good for us, yet we might be eating it, drinking it, or doing it now even though we know better. We have to make the choice to change and then commit to it. It is not enough to know there is a deadly snake coming toward you if you’re not going to move.

Complication. Anytime you request change of anyone including yourself you will encounter some complication. It is a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and sometimes financial adjustment. The complication could include setbacks, road blocks, discouragement, etc. Compassion for yourself and others can keep you on course.

My husband has this, let’s say “interesting”, approach to cleaning. Apart of that approach is that once he’s done he doesn’t want you to breathe, LOL. I’m just serious. In his mind he wants it to stay clean forever, but the bad news for him is that we can’t stop living because he cleaned up. So be mindful that just because you break some bad habits doesn’t mean they won’t try to resurface. You have to replace them and leave no vacancy for them to return. If they do resurface like toys strolled through the house or handprints on windows just break them again.

New Beginnings

Do you remember your first love. How it made you feel. How you would spend the majority of the day if not ALL DAY thinking about that person and couldn’t wait to be in the presence of him or her again?

Today or should I say a couple of days ago I experienced a shift in my walk with Christ that reunited me with Jesus in a way I haven’t experienced in years!

Reminisce with me for a moment. Do you remember your first love? How it made you feel. How you would spend the majority of the day if not all day thinking about that person and couldn’t wait to be in the presence of him or her again! Do you remember the joy and the euphoric experience that each text or phone call brought? And for those who are reading this blog who memory will allow them to time travel to an era were a duo by the name of Peaches & Herb wrote a hit song called Reunited from their 1978 album that took the world by storm. The lyrics to the chorus are as follows: Reunited and it feels so good.

Reunited ’cause we understood

There’s one perfect fit

And, sugar, this one is it

We both are so excited ’cause we’re reunited, hey, hey

Don’t those lyrics take you somewhere? Or the more relevant question is, Are you ready to experience it again?

If you have ever loved someone truly ( not talking about Social Media Love where lust has conjoined with the liking of jpeg files)

but words! Words have a way of traveling and taking you back to a place where in the poetic discourse of the Miseducation of Lauryn Hill album a song called Ex-factor. She begins her lyrics with these five words…… It all seems so simple. But the obvious question remains.

How do we return

back to that place of love and passion that we first experienced in the beginning when all things concerning the experience and interactions were new?

Allow me to share a few wisdom points about how I found or the better term is how I was lead back to my first love. Breakdown.

Wisdom Points

1a. The Breaking of Bad Habits.

1b. Cultivating A New Culture.

1c. Being Bold in the New and the Now.

1d. New League, New Love, and New Legacy.

1e. I Never KNEW‼️

My wife and I will expound on these points in our next blog post this Friday at 12 noon CST. Until then pray without ceasing and be kind to one another.

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Transitions

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THE TWO BECOME WON

Life is full of “swift transitions” the songwriter wrote in a hymnal I learned growing up as a child in church. But never would I have thought I’d experience these types of transitions in life like I have. You may ask what do you mean? Before I dive into my perspective let’s start off by defining the word transition.

Transition is defined as a passage from one state, stage, subject, or place to another :change
b : a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another

2
a :
a musical modulation
b : a musical passage leading from one section of a piece to another

3
:
an abrupt change in energy state or level (as of an atomic nucleus or a molecule) usually accompanied by loss or gain of a single quantum of energy.

What I mean going from up to down from…

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Transitions

Life is full of “swift transitions” the songwriter wrote in a hymnal I learned growing up as a child in church. But never would I have thought I’d experience these types of transitions in life like I have. You may ask what do you mean? Before I dive into my perspective let’s start off by defining the word transition.

Transition is defined as a passage from one state, stage, subject, or place to another :change
b : a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another

2
a :
a musical modulation
b : a musical passage leading from one section of a piece to another

3
:
an abrupt change in energy state or level (as of an atomic nucleus or a molecule) usually accompanied by loss or gain of a single quantum of energy.

What I mean going from up to down from in to out from glad to sad to mad….. you get my drift. Life has been a series of lessons that only the emotional-less teacher can give. Imagine receiving a test impromptu on subjects you have very little or no information on. Also imagine not having a study buddy or a mentor to help prepare you for the test. All situations aren’t the same; I agree, but there are simple steps that I have learned that I would like to share in this blog to give you a heads up on how to handle Swift Transitions.

First you must be Flexible. Flexible is defined as 1
:
capable of being flexed:pliantflexible branches swaying in the breeze

2
:
yielding to influence :tractable a flexible person without strong convictions

3
:
characterized by a ready capability to adapt to new, different, or changing requirements a flexible foreign policy a flexible schedule.

See when you’re flexible in your mind you become more fluid and therefore a flow creates instead of the opposite resistance. Resisting isn’t a negative thing necessarily, but the danger can be you miss what transition teaches you, then possibly having to repeat the process again which ends up in longer transitions.

Point numero 2 is Gratitude or to be thankful. Gratitude is defined as the state of being grateful:thankfulness. I’m reminded of a favorite scripture of mine in the Bible that I have committed to memory it’s this. In everything give thanks or show gratitude for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.-1 Thessalonians 5:18.

So what does it mean to be thankful and what does being thankful look like? It’s simple, don’t be a complainer or murmurer. Don’t be a Debbie Downer always sad and of low and poor disposition. But be an encourager. Smile more instead of being spiteful. Remember joy is inner and protected! No one or anything can take your joy, but you can forfeit it (joy) by yielding yourself and energy to the negative.

My Final Points are Expectation and Acceleration. Oftentimes when in transition the focal point can be I can’t wait to get out of this! Or as soon as this is over with etcetera etcetera. But with that mindset you have to be careful because you will miss what needed to be gleaned in this season and the important lessons that will propel you in your promotion season. Because purpose is the sole reason why we experience what we experience in my opinion. So if there’s great suffering involved there’s an even greater purpose you are being prepared for! Acceleration. Accelerate is defined as : to move faster : to gain speed The car slowly accelerated. The pace of change has accelerated in recent months.

2
:
to progress from grade to grade more rapidly than usual : to follow a speded-up educational program

transitive verb

1
:
to bring about at an earlier time Circumstances accelerated their departure.

2
:
to cause to move faster accelerated his steps; also: to cause to undergo acceleration

3
a :
to hasten the progress or development of accelerate our efforts
b :increaseaccelerate food production

4
a :
to enable (a student) to complete a course in less than usual time
b : to speed up (something, such as a course of study)

So based on the definition you can take solace in knowing that accelerating has everything to do with advancement (promotion) and being caught up or in front, farther than when you first began.

So in closing know this; The work that has started will be completed if you stay the course, keep your hope, let your thoughts be pure or clean and laced with positivity you will see a change in you which will allow you to see and experience everything new! Perspective is everything especially when going through Transitions.

Bags! Bags! bags!

What is baggage?

-personal belongings packed for traveling.

-past experiences or long held ideas.

What comes to your mind when you think of baggage? What visuals flood the timeline of your thoughts when you hear this word?

Or better yet how many relationships have flourished or died credited to what you are carrying?

I know these may be some heavy questions, but they are necessary to ask if you desire to become better as a husband, wife, parent etc. I believe we are a sum total of our experiences rather good or not so good, but they way we handle our experiences or baggage is what sets us apart from those who win and those who live deflated and defeated lives!

What are you trying to convey? A simple easy message that if received can alter they way you think 💭 when life challenges parade itself across the canvas of your existence.

Let us visit back to our definition of baggage and go a little further and see the connection our issues, insecurities, and idiosyncrasies that keeps us carrying unnecessary luggage.

So we know via definition of baggage is that they are things we carry with us everywhere we go and into every relationship we enter.

So for example:

  • You were cheated on so now everyone you date is a cheater & you exhaust the person you're dating with daily accusations and interrogation because of the luggage that came with your experiences with those people. Now you are looking 👀 like and internalize bad experiences which taints your outlook and future relationships simply by carrying and turning residue into residence.

WHERE DOES BAGGAGE COME FROM

1. We can inherit it or it can be taught to us by persons of authority and or influence.

2. Our environment and the exposure that comes with intimate relationships.

3. Last but not least, ourselves!

HOW TO GET RID OF BAGGAGE

1. Recognize that you need help! You are going to need someone to help you unpack and properly place what is needed and toss what isn't.

2. Don't just chose no any ole body. Be specific and make sure this individual can hold ice water! 😂

3. Be truthful. Only real breakthroughs happen when the truth is confessed!

Here's the link to our video discussion.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&persist_app=1&noapp=1&v=uo7wjIS1Cdc

-Kevin & Michelle Bradley

Don’t Be Difficult 😊

Good Sunny Day as we prepare for numerous of things  and events happening in our lives on today. Let’s keep this one thing in the forefront of our minds.  

When the opportunity present itself refuse to be Difficult! I learned a valuable lesson moments ago about myself in dealing with a business. Here’s the wisdom.

  1. In relationships Don’t be difficult.
  2. Interacting with people Don’t be Difficult .
  3. At work. Don’t be Difficult 
  4. At home especially at the hacienda. Don’t be Difficult.


Here’s the catch right here Especially when given the right to be Difficult.


For example your package was scheduled to be deliver at a certain time and you have been anticipating this package ALL WEEK! lol.    Don’t be Difficult even if justified. Take the high road and show grace. Because one day and someday you will need it the same grace you gave.



Be kindly affectionate one towards another as the Bible states. Don’t be Difficult 😇


Michelle’s husband



“Pour one out for the homies”


I must admit when I first saw this pic of Chance the rapper with a 40oz in his hand I immediately thought “Oh no”. I thought how could you have just been on the Grammy’s repping Christ so vehemently. I thought oh great another “believer” misrepresenting Christianity. But, then, I thought. I thought here I am criticizing this man with every thought but never once thought to pray for him. I thought how we as believers take and post pictures looking holy sanctified and set free but yet we too are holding a 40oz. But it’s not covered by a paper bag it’s covered by our clothes, smiles, and clergy. And it’s a 40oz of nasty attitude, a 40oz of judgement, a 40oz of pornography, a 40oz of fear, a 40oz of doubt & unbelief, or a 40oz of lies & hypocrisy. So before we are so quick to judge let us pour one out for the homies and pray instead of casting our glass bottles at glass houses.

Kevin’s Wife